For a long time now, there has been a growing trend for elopements, where two people take off in secret to get married privately, and many then celebrating with close family and friends afterwards.
In the same vein, and following on from the pandemic, we are now seeing an increase in smaller (micro) weddings, mainly due to the restrictions on numbers, but also some just feeling that they would rather scale things right back and make it more intimate.
So, what do you do when you want to keep your wedding small and simple and to refocus things on what is really important?
Well, there are a few options, but the most popular seems to be picking a mid-week date and/or having a micro wedding.
What is a micro wedding?
In simple terms, a micro wedding is a scaled-back celebration that has only a handful of invited guests (commonly 20 or less but the pandemic has seen numbers up to 30), is shorter in duration and is more simple in format, relaxed in atmosphere and less stress to organise than a ‘traditional’ wedding.
What are the advantages of micro weddings?
Generally, a micro wedding goes for 2-3 of hours, the perfect length of time to have a meaningful ceremony, enjoy some celebratory drinks and food and have some photographs taken to remember the occasion. Larger after-parties or receptions at another venue like a restaurant sometimes follow.
The simpler celebrations have fewer complications, less distractions and allow a couple to focus on just the important parts of their day with the people who are most important to them.
It can be much easier to keep sight of your budget when there are only 20 vs 200 guests. You could opt for more gourmet food for fewer people, rather than standard fayre for the masses.
Room for what you really want
Spending less (or not at all!) on things like favours, Boutonniere (button-holes), wedding party gifts, or indeed food for a larger group, you can decide on the odd extravagance without feeling guilty or compromised. Why not have your favourite champagne or that gorgeous budget-busting dress or suit!
Comparatively less stress!
Less going on means less to worry about. The logistics of some weddings can create all sorts of unnecessary nerves and panics. Have it all in one place, pick trusted suppliers, and a simpler format for the day and all the worry dissipates.
More quality time with your guests
Having a smaller guest list means you really can get around the room and catch up with everyone. Setting the limit on your guest list means you have to focus on who really is key in your lives and who you REALLY want to have there with you on your special day.
"Being a guest in a smaller group will undoubtedly make them feel very special too,
and you’ll all feel more connected in an intimate gathering."
What about our ceremony?
I’m glad you asked! Well in response to this growing trend for smaller weddings, we have looked hard at what we currently do, and we have designed a more fitting ceremony (and process) to align with this neater way of doing things. We are calling them “Mini Ceremonies”, and we would love to chat with you about how this works.
We work closely with our couples and it's a collaborative process, so it becomes something you feel happy about and can look forward to!
You can of course, still have something personal and unique and our full package is still available to you, but this gives you the chance to decide just how you want to run your day!
Links to some of uur Real (Micro) Weddings:
Picking the right setting for your day when having something smaller will be key, as you''ll need to make sure the spaces suit your numbers and it creates just the right atmosphere. I work with lots of great venues but here are a few that I recommend highly that have options for micro weddings:
Woodhaven Space (Woking, Surrey)
TYPE: private residence
SPACE: the most amazing flexible and inviting space inside.
WE LOVE: How intimate, it is. Locally sourced and home grown produce and super friendly hosts!
Little Dower House (Old Windsor, Berkshire)
TYPE: Private residence
SPACE: Enchanted walled 'secret' garden, wooded area, stream, outdoor venue but space for any sized marquee/stretch tents
WE LOVE: The amazing hosts and the magical feel. It has incredible views of Windsor Castle too!
The Runnymede Hotel and Spa (Egham, Surrey)
TYPE: Fabulous family-owned hotel
SPACE: Countless settings on-site to have a wedding, from a meadow under a willow tree, to an orchard, an outdoor pool area, flexible indoor function spaces, and riverside locations (including dome dining!) for small intimate gatherings
WE LOVE: The flexibility, the gorgeous settings and the riverside location. The staff are just amazing here and your photos would be incredible!
Drop us a line to chat further about this and we’ll happily run through things in more detail with you.
Jenny and the team.
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